This pattern creates a scrubbie that I literally use every day. I make my own Mostly Homemade Face Wash which you can find Here and these are the PERFECT solution to my delivery method problem.
It whips up in about 5 minutes and I make sets of seven so it’s staggered when I have to make new face wash.
Yarn: I have been a huge fan of I Love This Cotton (or Yarn) from Hobby Lobby lately. This pattern works best with Cotton because it is thinner and super soft! The pictures are shown in Limedot.
Hook: I used a G/7-4.5MM Hook
Gauge: Doesn’t really matter for this pattern however if you are making more than one you will want them to look equal in size.
Abbreviations: Sl st- slip stitch Ch- chain YO- yarn over
Row 1: Chain 3 sl st into 3rd ch from hook to create a circle (you could potentially use a magic circle here but I am not a big fan)
Row 2: YO and insert hook into center of the circle and make 6 puff stitches (Puff stitch: YO, insert hook into stitch, pull strand through, do the same 3 more times then pull your yarn through all 6 loops on the hook, close the puff with a chain)
Row 3: In the space between each puff stitch create 2 more puff stitches for a total of 12 there is no need for a ch to start the new row
To finish- leave a short tail (4 inches) and pull tail through the last stitch. Weave in ends
Those have so frequently become the first words out of my mouth.
Someone else bumps into me? I’m sorry.
A migraine presents itself and I cancel plans? I’m sorry.
I make a mistake at work and someone brings it up? I’m sorry.
These two little words have been making me feel small my whole life. They put me into a tiny little package where I could feel safe and I stayed there. Sorry for my existence and my presence. Those words along with my illnesses have had a huge effect on my mental health over the years.
About a year ago I started replacing every possible “I’m sorry” with “Thank You” and I found that it not only improved my attitude in conversations but the other person’s as well.
They have been less defensive and much more willing to work with me when things get dicey. I deal with property managers for a living and this little trick makes my life so much easier. When a cleaner or painter makes a mistake, “thank you for your communication, it really makes a difference”. Their whole body changes and they instantly know their importance again.
When I need to cancel plans because I’m in pain I say, “Thank you for your understanding.” Pain still drives people away faster than making mistakes. And there will always be people who think you should apologize.
But my pain will never go away. My journey to finding answers to lessen my pain will never go away, and I will always have side effects.
My aunt literally didn’t talk to me for A YEAR because she was under the impression that I lied to her. Which I hadn’t.
My best friend in college stopped talking to me because there was a mix up in plans while going to a concert on campus so we didn’t get to walk to the on-campus event together, and I had the AUDACITY to still enjoy myself with my other friend there. I’m OK that she left.
My immediate family has a habit of just being silent while angry. This is not an effective way of “not being angry” which is what everyone thinks they are doing. They give looks and turn their backs which has instilled a large amount of anxiety in me and has taken HOURS of therapy to figure out why.
Currently, I am not being talked to by my dad’s entire side of the family for a reason still unknown to me. My mother is also mad at me because I am putting more time into my boyfriend, whom I live with, than I was before.
I’m 23. I have a full-time job, and I haven’t lived with her since I was 17 when I figured out the abusive tendencies that she was exhibiting.
Another best friend for EIGHT YEARS walked away from me because in her words she was too anxious to make conversation with my boyfriend. Meanwhile, I had been putting up with her drug addict of a boyfriend for nearly all eight years we had known each other. Now, I believe in anxiety and all other mental health issues, but if you can sit in someone’s house and speak only to the person who doesn’t even live there the whole time. That’s more than anxiety, I don’t even know what to call it. We stopped speaking almost six months ago and I haven’t missed her even once, which speaks to my own mental health issues. But I’m ok that she left.
Because of examples like these, I tend not to get too attached to people. I just left a job that I had been at for a year and a half, and I literally miss like three people. It was a coaching job where I worked with the same group of kids for nine weeks at a time and I literally miss the kids.
I’ve learned that the important people, the people that I actually want in my life, will not leave for trivial things.
It’s OK, and probably for the better, that those people left. I’m with people who care about me and I literally have people who I have known for six months just giving me randoms presents because they love me, while my own family is ignoring me because…?
Disclaimer: all names have been changed for the persons privacy.
I Ghosted My Best Friend
I’m not proud of it and none of this is meant to be an excuse, just a story hoping that if someone else is in a similar situation it can help them make decisions before it gets too late.
We met in high school. She was older than me and I thought she was the cool kid. And she was. She always had money, her parents didn’t care where she was, and her cell phone had unlimited data (a rarity in 2011).
We were in marching band together, and the first time I really knew that we were friends was on our way home from our trip to Washington D.C. We were on the same bus but she was a few rows back from me. When we were about 5 hours from home, she came up and sat on the floor next to me and we talked and played games until we pulled into the high school.
She would pick me up and we would go driving. We had more than one near death experience and ate A LOT of Cherry Berry. When she was a senior she told me that she FINALLY hooked up with the guy she had a crush on forever.
After she graduated, I visited her dorm room and finally knew where I wanted to go to school. She was still hooking up with that guy, it took a while for them to be “official”.
My parents got divorced that year, and because of the traumatizing circumstances, it really brought me and “Ashley” closer. Her sophomore year of college she lived in an apartment with a girl she hated, and I was a freshman living in a dorm with a girl I hated. She got along with my new friends too but it was kind of hard because she was living off campus and working.
The next year I moved in to the apartment with her and we spent our nights watching Harry Potter and doing homework at the kitchen table. Sometimes we were really productive and sometimes we weren’t. But we passed, we used my fake ID to drink wine and Nick (the boy from before) would come visit every once in a while.
There’s something I should tell you about Nick. He did (and definitely still does) heroine. I was never ok with this, but I never really had any reasons to not like him other than that. He said he wasn’t an addict and it wasn’t affecting his life.
I knew it, but I loved her. She was my best friend.
He stood her up.
Changed their plans at the last second.
Made her cry and took her anxiety to the next level.
Was too high to drive down for New Years so she had to go up there.
Then he OD’d.
He spent a ridiculously short amount of time in rehab. She said she wouldn’t take him back until he was sober.
Now she was in Law School.
And he got arrested. Now he went to rehab and stayed there.
It had been almost eight years of me avoiding her boyfriend. And telling her my true opinions. So I gave her an ultimatum.
Him or me.
She chose me.
A few weeks into rehab, she went to visit.
And then she was visiting every time she could.
Then she came to meet my new boyfriend. My first boyfriend ever. And couldn’t be bothered to talk to him. She spent the first hour on her phone, and the next ordering pizza that ended up never coming. BF went to bed and she ended up leaving to go get her pizza.
That was the last time I ever saw her. We have only talked once since, when I tried to see what she thought of BF and why she had acted like that. She spent and hour blaming me for her behaviour.
This doesn’t recount the times where my family told me they didn’t want me around her, the holidays she ruined, or the many times I worried and honestly still do, that Nick was dead with a needle in his arm and had dragged her down with him.
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